Meet Aditi of Pregnancy Loss Healing
Aditi is one of the strongest, most remarkable women I've ever met. The work she does blows me away. She's also a regular contributor here on the site, writing monthly posts to help women going through hardships around pregnancy, loss and the aftermath. You can read more about her services here, and read on below to get deeper insight into what she does and why she does it.
Tell us a bit about what you do.
I support and coach women through the journey after pregnancy loss, miscarriage and stillbirth. I provide a safe space for women to show up as they are and speak their truth. Through conversations and questions, I help women gain a new view of their journey that fosters healing and growth. I also help make connections and address patterns that may be influencing the way they are processing their story. I provide `home experiments` that foster continued growth. Through mindfulness based tools, my clients get an opportunity to discover the freedom that comes from present moment awareness.
What has been your journey to this point?
Oh where do I even begin?…
I was a social worker when I first got married. I didn`t think I wanted to have children but after 3 years of being married, I changed my mind. I had never known a man like my husband and I wholeheartedly wanted to have a family with him.
We immediately got pregnant when we began trying but sadly I lost our first pregnancy due to an ectopic pregnancy. The next time I got pregnant, I was terrified. Sadly we lost that pregnancy too. Then with my third pregnancy, I was so full of anxiety and fear that I really lost the ability to enjoy it. Even after the birth of my healthy Rainbow (baby born after loss), I was still stricken with deep anxiety. The emotions that gripped me after losing two babies was intense and something I never expected.
I knew right away that I wanted to help other women who might be experiencing the same. So I left my social work job and became a doula. Though my doula website never mentioned my pregnancy loss, every client that found me had had previous loss. The universe has a way of showing you your purpose, even when you don`t think you are "looking" for it.
I decided to take a `loss doula` training and I began supporting more women through loss. While I enjoyed doula work, I realized I wanted to focus even more on the mental health support. So I took an intensive training to become a certified life coach.
What made you decide to follow this path?
Even after I became a coach, I was not thinking of focusing my coaching on pregnancy loss support. The universe again, gave me a nudge…
My best friend found out at 25 weeks pregnant that her daughter had died. I was there by her side as she welcomed her daughter born still. Supporting my friend through the year after the loss was when I realized how little support was out there for the “aftermath” of loss.
Why did you decide to specialize in still birth, loss, and births after loss?
After I supported my friend and my first client, I realized this was my purpose. I didn’t decide to specialize in pregnancy loss…the universe showed me that I needed to.
What services do you offer?
I offer 4 types of coaching sessions:
- Initial Loss Coaching: These sessions are for women who have just lost a pregnancy due to miscarriage, stillbirth or infant loss.
- Conception Coaching: These sessions are for women who are deciding to try again or are trying again to get pregnant after previous loss.
- Pregnancy Coaching: being pregnant after loss can be an extremely anxious time. These sessions are for women who are pregnant again.
- Rainbow Coaching: These sessions are for women who have given birth to their Rainbow baby (baby born after loss) but are still struggling with grief, fear and anxiety.
I also offer customized mindfulness meditation recordings that are specific and unique to your needs and your journey.
You’re also part of a second business, Redefine Support. What is the focus of that?
The journey into parenting is hard, even without loss. The focus of ReDefine is to create community and have many services that new parents can access. We offer doula support, lactation education, placenta encapsulation, wellness coaching, car seat installations, and prenatal birthing classes.
So whether parents are looking for doula support, placenta encapsulation or wellness coaching, they have access to an abundance of support and can redefine their own support…ultimately easing their transition into this phase of their life.
What is the most rewarding part of what you do? The hardest?
The most rewarding part of my work is seeing mothers rediscover trust and find their inner power. Witnessing the healing and growth of my clients has got to be the best thing ever.
The hardest part is not carrying the sadness with me. I am learning to let practice self care more, which helps.
What do you love about it?
I love that women know that they are not alone. After pregnancy loss, most women feel quite alone. It is so empowering to share our stories, our grief and our joy with others who have been through it. It is through sharing our truth that we really understand that we are not alone.
What advice do you have for those starting their own endeavors?
If something feels like it is what you are meant to do….do it. Don’t overthink things, lean into trust that you will be supported.
Biggest reward being an entrepreneur? Biggest struggle?
Biggest reward is that I get to be home with my daughter. I make up my own schedule so I can really be present in my daughters childhood. It is such an honour to spend the time I do with her.
The biggest struggle is setting carved out time to work.
How do you define success?
Success to me is not monetary or material. I feel most successful when I am at peace. I am most at peace when I am living in alignment with my purpose.
What is your ultimate goal, both personally and professionally?
My ultimate goal is to live in the present and help de-stigmatize miscarriage, stillbirth and anxiety after loss.
What inspires you?
The women I support inspire me. These women have gone through unimaginable pain and yet the resilience they show is amazing. They continually choose love over fear—even when they don’t realize they are doing that. These women are inspiring.
How do you find balance? What does balance look like to you?
Balance is still something I am working on. I know asking for support when I need it is key. Balance to me is when I feel like I am not taking away from one area to give to another. Like I said, I am still working on that ;)
What do you feel is the most important thing in life?
My family (the one I came from, the own I birthed and the one I have created). Family, people, and relationships are what drive me. They are absolutely the most important thing in my life.