Why You Should Still Be In Therapy, Even When You’re Not Struggling
I just signed up for more coaching with Kori, something I did years ago after the mental breakdown. Yes, I’m technically “better” and stable now. In the past, I would’ve just enjoyed it and let all the self-work fall to the wayside (although I’ve never really been at this level of health & stability before). But I’ve realized that just because I’m not in crisis anymore doesn’t mean my work is done.
When you’re dealing with serious mental health issues that are in crisis, like having regular panic attacks, having depression or anxiety running your life, or are suicidal, your ONLY goal is getting stable. Everything is about surviving. But once we’re there, we get complacent. We stop doing the work, thinking we’re “cured” and that everything is fine. Just because the crisis has passed does NOT mean that the wound is healed.
Not continuing the work, the therapy, the meds, or anything that got you back to stable ground is what sets you up for another crisis episode. Those deep wounds, beliefs, and triggers that caused the low in the first place are still there. They’re just quieter, more unconscious. They are still running your life, even if you don’t realize it.
But now that you’re stable, and don’t have to focus on surviving, you have a chance to learn how to thrive. You can keep diving deep into those wounds without the fear that it’s what’s going to end you. You can approach your beliefs from a more neutral, healthy place. It gives you a chance to find & treat the underlying causes of the illness, not just the illness. It’s also the perfect time to learn and practice strategies for managing crisis, and getting a self care routine in place to mitigate stress and hopefully delay or even prevent another crisis episode. And that, my friends, is a beautiful thing.
This work never ends, but it does get easier. It’s now something I look at as a game - what other memories can I unblock & heal? What other things can I find that drive me that I didn’t know? Are there more things I can learn about, more avenues to explore and pursue? What tricks can I learn for managing when crisises do come up, so that they aren’t as debilitating? There are days it gets heavy, and hard, and it feels overwhelming, but the relief I feel knowing some unconscious trauma is no longer driving my beliefs and actions is TOTALLY worth it.