10 Things to Remember When Dealing with Anxiety


Today I’m sharing the ten most important lessons I’ve learned from living with anxiety for decades. These are the things that helped me get past thinking suicide was my only option. They are what helped me realize that maybe there is another way out of this. These touchstones are what I try and go back to on the days where it takes me three tries to get myself out of bed, or I spend my nights in a ball exhausted because I've had so many panic attacks that day. My hope is one of them may be what you need to read in this moment. And if not, that is okay too.

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~ Like your choices, like yourself ~

~ Being afraid of hurting yourself may be a form of protecting yourself ~

~ It is easy to understand these theories when everything is going okay. The learning and practice comes when everything is falling apart ~

~ If you have a stable identity, it is harder to fall apart and feel lost. A stable identity is an anchor that gives you something to hold on to ~

~ Emotions are not a call to action. They are neither good nor bad. They are there for a reason - they are trying to tell you something. Give them space and awareness, and respond rather than react ~

~ What you put your attention on grows ~

~ It is okay to need help. This is hard work, & there will be easier days & harder days. Each has it's own purpose ~

~ Focus on physical sensations when trying to get out of your head or stop thoughts from spiralling. Pet a kitty, rub your hand, or stand outside and be mindful of the sensations ~

~ We are all on our own journeys & are all doing the best we know how. Accept your journey; be aware of it without judgement ~

~ You are your own person. Set up your boundaries to reflect that. By learning about your boundaries you are learning about yourself. Establishing boundaries is not selfish; you are improving your relationship with yourself and with others by showing up honestly and authentically. It is an act of self care, self compassion, and self respect ~