When Something Doesn’t Fit…

maybe it's a love note from the universe

Many (many!!) moons ago, I wrote a personal style guide, & over the last few months I’ve been feeling pulled to rework it. I’ve needed it myself coming through matrescence & pivoting my business, & some folks had reached out to share how it helped them find their own style, shifting how they saw themselves & moved through their days.

I’ve changed most of it to reflect what I’ve learned over the last decade, but even still, something felt off. I realized I was still mostly focusing on the benefits of curating your wardrobe—more ease, a deeper connection to yourself, a moment for playfulness & creativity.

All of that is absolutely true... most of the time.

Last week, after spending all morning working on the guide, I was getting dressed for an event, & I swear I cycled through like 20 outfits without finding one that felt right. I walked away from my closet almost in tears before I realized the issue wasn’t my clothes & that in that moment, no outfit was going to feel right.

Something unexpected had triggered some old memories that I hadn’t realized were lingering. Also, I was hungry.

I needed to take a breath & do some somatics. Eat a snack. Get out of my head & into my body with a great playlist to make getting ready fun.

The next outfit I put on wasn’t perfect, but it was closer. The one after that felt like a full-body sigh; I finally felt at home in myself. It also made me realize what wasn’t fitting in the guide.

Most days, a curated wardrobe filled with pieces that fit your body, life & style will make life a bit easier. But sometimes, shit will still come up. And that is okay. Style is about so much more than clothing—it’s a reflection of what’s going on internally, our emotions & perspectives made manifest. It’s an invitation to take a moment to connect with yourself, which is half the magic of what a curated wardrobe can offer: a space to pause and move through life with intention.